THE ART OF DISENGAGING
Disengaging is the act of withdrawing from or ceasing to take part in an activity, conversation, or relationship. It can be seen as a means of self-protection, a way to avoid getting hurt, or simply a way to take a break.
It’s all about taking a step back and not letting yourself get too wrapped up in things. It’s about detaching yourself from the drama and the stress of the day-to-day life.
I’ve always been a big fan of disengaging as an approach to life, but it seems like more and more people are talking about it as a way to reduce stress and live a happier life.
Time and again, i’ve learnt the hard way that not everything is worth your reaction or response.People are willing to go to the extremes just to see you stoop so low and mostly is to satisfy their selfish gains. I’m all against telling people your triggers because believe you me, things happen and you might have just handed them the weapon for your destruction.
There are times when disengaging is the best thing you can do for yourself. If you’re in a situation that’s making you uncomfortable, or if you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, taking a step back can be the healthiest thing for you. Disengaging can also be a way to protect yourself .
Well, there are instances where we can’t help it and want to relay information we deem necessary to those in our close circles, but there should be a limit to that. Not everyone is happy when things are great on your end especially if they are on a downwards spiral themselves.Misery loves comfort and they would rather bring you down with them.
I used to react every single time someone said mean things to me especially in a public setting, but it’s not always necessary. At first, i would not hesitate calling them out, until i realized that is exactly how they wanted me to react and therefore i fed into their satisfaction.
Having said that, disengaging can be difficult, especially if you’re not used to doing it. It can be hard to walk away from something that you’ve invested a lot of time and energy into. But if you can learn to be mindful of your own needs and boundaries, you’ll find that disengaging can be a powerful tool.
I think the key to disengaging is to find a way to do it that works for you. What works for me might not work for you and vice versa, so you need to find what works for you.
Finding that balance is key. There are situations that will require your engagement, otherwise there will be anger and resentment lingering due to unsaid things. Just figure out when and why it’s necessary to engage and when not to.
Here are a few tips for disengaging:
- Be honest with yourself.
The first step is to be honest with yourself about why you want to disengage. Are you feeling overwhelmed? Uncomfortable? Are you just not interested? Being honest about your feelings will help you to make a clean break.
- Respect your own boundaries.
If you’re not comfortable with a situation, you have the right to remove yourself from it. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and stick to them.
- Be mindful of your own needs.
It’s important to be aware of your own needs and desires, and to not neglect them in favor of others. Make sure to take time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes each day.
- Don’t be afraid to walk away.
If you’re not happy in a situation, or if you feel like you’re being taken advantage of, don’t be afraid to walk away. It’s not always easy, but it can be the best thing for you.
Do not at one given point feel bad for disengaging in a conversation that was meant to strip you off your dignity, however manipulative or provacative that person is. The aim of disengaging is to create an opportunity for you to escape or to gain control of the situation. Sometimes it’s better to protect yourself from situations or people in general that do not deserve you getting worked up.
In conclusion, find a way to balance engagement and disengagement. That way, you can live a happier, more peaceful life.
One Comment
MbithiMartin
Woow… so insightful.
Though sometimes it’s a hard way to go but in long run it’s worthy it.